“Why does it seem that the woman always has to set the standard for everything?” you may ask. The reality of life is, whether it is in the area of emotional or sexual etiquette, a man will always try a woman. But that’s where your power as a woman comes in. Instead of complaining about something that probably won’t change anytime soon, use your power! Set the pace and pick the flavor. It’s totally up to you how the relationship will go! God can’t make him treat you special if you act cheap. If you start off allowing him to be disrespectful of your time, inconsiderate of your feelings, selfish and altogether trifling, don’t get upset if he doesn’t change after you are committed to him. After all, you gave him your stamp of approval by proceeding with the relationship even after he revealed he was worthless. If you, on the other hand, have politely and in your most ladylike way told that man, “listen, this is not the type of treatment I am used to or find acceptable; therefore, I think you are not ready for a friendship or relationship with me.” One of two things will happen: he will either accept that information as true even though it hurts his ego, or he will reapproach you from a new angle. Just keep in mind, he has already displayed his true colors. Think about it! When you stand before God that “it was the mate you gave me” argument won’t work. It didn’t work with Adam in the garden after the fall, and it won’t work with you. God will simply say, “yeah, I know about him, but what did I tell you to do?” Two wrongs never have made a right. So stay in your right position. To be perfectly honest, you are the only person you can control.
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So stop trying to make things happen. By doing that, you are short-circuiting your own happiness. Stop force-fitting yourself into situations that God wants to shield you from. When you get out from under his umbrella of protection guess what? You get rained on. And that’s not his fault, its yours. So stay put and allow him to shield you and your heart from unnecessary grief. God knows where you are and where your man is. Pray and ask him to order your steps so that you meet at his ordained time. Until then, leave every cute man right where you found him unless he ences with the holy spirit to see if you should give the time of day or your phone number before you get excited. ‘Cause after all, a principles woman knows that if a husband is what she wants, she needs to keep the way clear for his entrance. – Michelle Hammond
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