How To Enjoy and Make Long Distance Relationship work
1. Stay in contact.
Since you won’t be seeing each other in person, it’s important to establish and maintain an emotional connection as often as you can. These don’t always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Frequent communication, no matter how minor, will show that you care enough to put in the time and effort into the relationship and itâ€™s easier to keep up to date with each otherâ€™s lives. If you allow large (days at a time) gaps to pass by, your everyday experiences fade into the background, and you will have to start from scratch every time you speak.
Learn your partner’s preferred method for communication. Be sure to try a variety of technologies to see what works best for you both. You may try texting, emailing, or facetime to keep up to date with little daily details of your lives.
Work around your schedules. If you know you’re going to be too busy to communicate, let your partner know in advance and try to stay in contact as best you can. If you’re not as busy as your partner, remain flexible and focus on something of interest to you.
2. Talk about the mundane, little things.
Don’t feel as though every conversation needs to be a thoughtful discussion about your relationship, hopes, or dreams. Instead, focus on the little things that couples who live together would, such as grocery shopping, doing chores around the house, or redecorating. This gives the feeling of creating a home together, something you both can look forward to.
Talking about the boring or mundane parts of your day can also foster connection and interdependence, the foundation of relationships.
3. Visit often.
Try to make the time to visitÂ each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits. You need to see each other in person at every opportunity. Make a regular visiting schedule or at least make plans for the next visit as soon as each one ends. Face-to-face communication is just as important as having relationship satisfaction, commitment, and trust. Create your own rituals around your visits, like eating at a favorite restaurant, enjoying a quiet night together at home, or sharing a favorite activity. Smooth out travel logistics so they don’t get in the way of your time together. Know where to meet at the airport or train station. Learn to travel with one bag or leave basics at your partner’s home to save time at the airport.
Meet away from home sometimes, too. Go visit a place together that is new to both of you or choose a place that is halfway between both of you.
4. Remember that your partner is human.
Distance makes the heart grow fonder, but can also make you idealize your partner. While this can make your relationship stable, extreme idealization (thinking your partner is perfect) will make it more difficult to reunite with the actual person.
Maintaining day-to-day communication about your everyday lives will help humanize your partner and become aware of changes your partner might be going through.
5. Support each other, even over the distance.
Be there for your partner if your partner is ever in trouble, hurt, or for whatever reason. You need to make yourself available to help so your partner knows you care. If your partner ends up dealing with important issues alone, your partner will eventually not need you. Interdependence refers to the willingness to act against your own self-interest for the benefit of you partner or for your relationship. Instead, supporting each other creates interdependence that is crucial for a long distance relationship.
Interdependence can be seen in everyday activities like compromising about decisions and long term behaviors like quitting smoking.
6. Create trust.
Trust in a relationship is vital, regardless of distance. Try your best to be faithful and avoid temptation. If you do make a mistake, itâ€™s especially important to be honest and tell your partner the truth in cases where lying would benefit you. For example, if you put yourself in a position of temptation (like going to a bar), lying about your whereabouts would benefit you personally, but would benefit your relationship if you were honest.
Frequent use of email and online resources can help cultivate trust in romantic relationships.
7. Be committed to each other.
Be open and honest by volunteering private information. You should be be morally committed to each other, continuing the relationship because of personal values, not because of social pressures. Personal values include beliefs like â€œstaying faithful is part of my identity.â€ Social pressures involve the perception of society’s approval or disapproval. For example, â€œMy mom would be devastated if I cheated on my girlfriend and she broke up with me.â€
Watch out for behaviors where your partner tries to manipulate you into doing something that only benefits your partner, like lying about an emergency to get you to answer your phone during an important business meeting. If dishonesty and manipulation become a part of your communication, then you must revisit why your relationship lacks trust.
8. Make each other feel special.
Try to do little things that let the other person know that you care. You may write love letters and send them in the mail. Or, send small gifts, cards, or flowers for no reason. It’s easier than ever to find ways to send almost anything to your partner. Don’t feel as though you can send something that makes a grand gesture. The little, frequent things are just as important as making the person feel special on special occasions.
9. Pursue common interests.
Try new things together, even if it means doing them apart. This way, you’re not just talking on the phone, which can be a pitfall of long-distance relationships if it’s the only thing you ever do. Instead, do something romantic like stargaze while you’re on the phone. Synchronize and set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off.
Remind yourself that your partner is thinking of you while you do these activities together, even though you’re far apart. It can strengthen your bond.
10. Create connections.
It’s important to feel like you have a place in your partner’s life. Try meeting one another’s friends, online or off. This will help you understand more of your partner’s life and make communication easier. If one of you must someday move so that you can be together, that person will be leaving friends behind. Start right away to begin a new social and professional network for the partner who is moving.
11. Talk through doubts, uncertainty, and fear together.
Explore the scary and difficult subjects along with the good. Consider this as a chance to explore your feelings together honestly. Recognizing your partnerâ€™s ups and downs while you are physically apart will make you more accepting and comfortable with their low points when you see each other in person.
It’s understandable that you might only want to focus on the positive. But, you should let your partner know your low points. Both of you are human, and itâ€™s ok to not always be happy.
12. Remain positive.
Don’t have any negative in mind,like is he/she cheating on me over there? Focus on the positives of the distance, such as the ability to pursue your interests, hobbies, and career objectives. Realize that the distance will also push both of you to be more creative when it comes to communicating and expressing your feelings. Look at this as a chance to test your communication skills and emotions.
As long as you see the long-distance relationship as a temporary state, you will keep your chin up and send that feeling of security and happiness to your partner tooFollow Love Venture on WordPress.com