Notice your thoughts of the future
If youâ€™re truly in love, then you wonâ€™t be able to imagine a future without your loved one in it. If you canâ€™t think a year, two years, or a lifetime ahead without factoring in your loved one every step of the way, then youâ€™re falling in love.
If when you think ahead, you always think of â€œweâ€ instead of â€œI,â€ then youâ€™re getting used to the idea of your loved one always being in your life.
If you and your loved one are comfortable talking about your plans one year or two years from today, and you have no doubts that your feelings will be just as strong then, then you may be falling in love.
If you canâ€™t imagine getting married, raising children, or moving across the country without your loved one at your side, then you may be falling in love.
If you canâ€™t imagine being happy in the future without your loved one in your life, then you may be in love.
If the thought of the future with your loved one brings you great joy and comfort instead of anxiety and uncertainty, then you may be in love.
Notice how often you think about your special someone
Remember that there is a difference between love and infatuation. Itâ€™s natural that youâ€™ll be thinking of your loved one constantly when you start a new relationship, but to see if youâ€™re in love, you should consider how often you think about your loved one once youâ€™ve grown more settled.
If youâ€™ve been with your loved one for six months or over a year and you still canâ€™t go more than a few minutes without thinking about him or her, then youâ€™re in love.
If youâ€™re always wondering what your loved one would think about what youâ€™re doing if heâ€™d like the movie youâ€™re watching, or how much heâ€™d love to try the new restaurant where you met your girlfriends then you may be falling in love.
If you find yourself always wondering what your loved one is up to when heâ€™s not around, and find yourself daydreaming about your loved one going through his day, then you may be in love.
If you find yourself drifting off in class, during a movie, or even in the middle of a conversation with a friend because youâ€™re thinking about your special someone, then you may be falling in love.
Â See if you factor your loved one into all of your decisions
If youâ€™re truly in love, then youâ€™re used to thinking about operating as a team with your loved one. Youâ€™re no longer riding solo if youâ€™re in love, so your big decisions should always be made with your loved one in mind.
If youâ€™re truly in love, you wouldnâ€™t make a rash big decision without consulting your loved one for advice. After all, the decision, whether itâ€™s a big career change or the choice to go back to school, will affect both of you.
If you would never choose to move a location where your loved one wouldnâ€™t be able to be happy, then youâ€™re in love.
If you and your loved one can work together and make big decisions without arguing and not being able to reach an agreement, then youâ€™re falling in love.
If you would never choose to do something that would hurt or disappoint your loved one, then you are falling in love.
Consider what you think about your loved oneâ€™s imperfections
If youâ€™re truly in love, then you must have had enough time to realize that your love object isnâ€™t perfect. If youâ€™re still at the â€œheâ€™s perfectâ€ stage, then you havenâ€™t been in the relationship long enough to see that everyone even the apple of your eye is a flawed human being. Being in love means accepting your loved oneâ€™s imperfections and embracing them.
If youâ€™re really in love, then you understand that your loved one has some weaknesses. You have to be able to admit that your loved one may not always be the best listener or have the best sense of humor. Thatâ€™s OK.
If youâ€™re really in love, then you can help your loved one address his flaws, but you shouldnâ€™t try to change him. If youâ€™re really in love, then you can help your loved one work on being more responsible, but you shouldnâ€™t try to make him a completely different person.
If youâ€™re really in love, then youâ€™ll appreciate your loved oneâ€™s quirks. Youâ€™ll love your guyâ€™s goofy laugh, or how your girl canâ€™t help but be fifteen minutes late to everything.