See if the person talks about your future together like it’s a given.
If the person really loves you, then the idea of you being in his or her future is an absolute given, not something that he or she would ever have anxiety or uncertainty about. If the person routinely talks about what you’re going to do in the future, about what your lives will look like one, two, or even ten years in the future together, then he’s probably in love with you.
True commitment means seeing a forever with another person. If the person talks about the future and always includes you in it, then there’s a good chance he truly loves you.
If the person talks about what your kids will look like, where you’ll retire together, or where you’ll go for your honeymoon, then he may really love you.
Â See if the person gives you meaningful compliments
There’s a difference between saying, “I like your new haircut” and “You have the ability to make me feel better no matter what.” If the person gives you complements that show that he really appreciates the important aspects of your character and personality, then there’s a good chance he really loves you.
Your loved one doesn’t have to shower you with compliments all the time â€” it’s the quality, not the quantity, that makes a difference.
See if the person says “I love you” and means it
Remember that there’s a big difference between “Love ya!” and “I love you.” If your special someone really loves you and tells you this much while looking into your eyes, sounding earnest, and not wanting anything from you, then it’s likely that he really means it.
If the person undeniably loves you, then he’ll say it for no reason at all, not just because he needs a favor or because it feels like the right thing to say.
See if the person really opens up to you
If your loved one really loves you, then they’ll really open up to you and tell you what they are thinking, feeling, fearing, and longing for. If the person really opens up about their childhood, greatest regrets, most painful moments, or most romantic dreams for the future, then it’s likely that they like you because the person is so comfortable telling you anything. If the person tells you, “I’ve never told anyone this before…” then there’s a good chance that he really loves and trusts you.
Â See if your loved one tells you how much she misses you when you’re apart
If you and your loved one are apart, but she still texts you, calls you, or emails you to let you know how much she misses you, then it means she can’t imagine her life without you. If you go on a three-week vacation and don’t hear a word from her, then it may not be love. She doesn’t have to call you constantly to let you know if she misses you.
See if the person is comfortable with pointing out your mistakes
If that person truly loves you, then he doesn’t have an idealized picture of you in his mind. If it’s truly love, then that person will be comfortable with telling you when you’ve made a mistake, said something illogical, or acted badly. Though the person shouldn’t criticize you all the time, giving you a healthy amount of criticism just means that the person really knows you in and out and accepts your mistakes as well as your best qualities. If the person never argues with you or never criticizes you, then you should be on the look out. Make sure that the person truly loves you instead of an ideal version of who you are.
Â See if the person truly values your opinion
If the person truly loves you, then he’ll care about what you think — whether it’s about his new pair of shoes or the political situation in your country. If he really loves you, he’ll ask for your advice and opinions, whether it’s on matters big or small. He may feel self-conscious about asking for your opinion, but he’ll do it because he loves you. He doesn’t have to ask for your opinion on everything — only the things that really matter.Follow Love Venture on WordPress.com