Do you see yourself going gaga over the wrong person and just canâ€™t control it? Here, we have some of the tried and tested tips for you. First comes the feeling of liking, which is often termed as infatuation. You donâ€™t fall in love with the person in the initial stage. Infatuation is one thing that causes inseparable area of your thinking process over that person. You just wonâ€™t be able to stop thinking about them. Many of us have a crush on somebody and then end up falling in love with them each passing day.
Sometimes, itâ€™s natural to have second thoughts about the person. A co-worker or a friend could be sweet and charming, and before you realize anything, you will beÂ having some deep connection with them. You just wonâ€™t be able to control if you are falling head over heels in love with them. It is a possibility that every part of your body will be guiding you that you are going down the wrong path. You must have tried to stop yourself too, but it ends up resulting hurting you more.
And, at the end you just accept what you are going through and accept all the misery as well as self pity that the person you love will never be able to love you as you love them. But you know what the reality is?Â You can still get hold of yourself and turn the time upside down. You can still have a life which is under your control. You can still stop falling in love with that person and get your stand back if you truly want to.
1. Try to convince yourself first!
Wait is the key to get over that person. Infatuation is only alive till the time you feed it with patience. Once you have made your mind that this person is not right for you in the coming future, and then you can easily drop the whole concept of falling in love. You need to convince yourself first before anybody else.
2. Keep the difference in mind!
Thereâ€™s a huge difference between infatuation and falling in love with somebody. Infatuation is just finding somebody interesting and attractive in anything they do. Just because you like the person as he/she is attractive and fun doesnâ€™t necessarily mean you love them.
3. Distancing is mandatory!
Initially it might seem painful, if at all you talk to them on a daily basis or if youâ€™re working day and night with them, hence, forced to talk to them. No matter how difficult it is, just try to avoid them or keep some distance from them.
4. Avoid having a physical contact!
You may feel like you are up on cloud 9 every time you hold their hand or cuddle them. But you need to realize that each time you walk away from that, you will get hurt. It may seem stupid to some, but can work wonders. Stop being cosy with them and know that it will do you no good in present or in future as well.
5. Donâ€™t be too over friendly!
Avoid late night and long conversations with this person. Most important of all, stop exchanging late night calls or text messages where you discuss the most intimate details of your life. You need to remember one thing regarding this, youâ€™re not going any friendlier with this person, and rather you are falling deeper in love with him. And, this is definitely not what you want.
6. No stalking!
It feels very satisfying as you stay updated about this personâ€™s private life. But, you know what your destination is. Avoid opening their face book page or following them on any other social networking website to see about their future activity or whether theyâ€™ve been up for something. Try limiting the times you stalk them and eventually you will start ignoring them completely.
7. Pay attention to other things now!
Donâ€™t let one person control your mind and your life. It may seem next to impossible to forget about that person or ignore him. So, rather, engage yourself in other activities which will help you diverting your mind. And every time, you start thinking about him or make you sad, then think something else that makes you feel happy.
8. Donâ€™t please people, Just be yourself!
Itâ€™s all okay to turn down somebodyâ€™s request. You donâ€™t need to something just because somebody else wants you to do it. You are the owner of your own choices. You donâ€™t have to please people by saying â€yesâ€ to anything they say. You need to have your stand as well.
9. Focus on the bad side!
Each one of us has flaws. So, the next time you meet that person, just focus on the bad traits they bear. This is one of the best ways to get over somebody. Each time you think about that person, think about their bad behaviour with you and what bad side they bear.
10. Focus on someone else now!
It is one of the easiest ways to get over somebody in no less time. Just try to divert your attention over somebody else.Â It can be a flirty conversation for a few days or it may turn into a great friendship after a few days.
11. Avoid giving or taking attention!
Even if youâ€™re in a smooth relationship which is going subtle in all boundaries, flirty attention from somebody may make you feel weak. If youâ€™re not up for any serious material in your life, then you can try avoiding attention from the one even if it feels good.
12. Your self respect comes first!
Donâ€™t ever lose your self respect for anybody who is just not worth the time and patience of yours! There is a strong reason why you donâ€™t want this relationship to go further or work. Remember that you are worth something better in life.
13. Have a conversation with this person!
Does this person have any idea that you are infatuated with them, but donâ€™t want it to go any further? If you want no complications, then talk to this person and tell them how you feel. Try to avoid each other and follow the no contact rule in future.
These are the sure shot ways of not falling in love with the person you think is not worth it! There is no end of guys and girls in this universe. You will find your â€the oneâ€ when it is the right time. Till then, donâ€™t experiment with the wrong ones!Follow Love Venture on WordPress.com