Getting through break up in a relationship is a very hard thing especially if you guys have been dating for long. Some always find it difficult to go through it and get back into life. It has destroy some and some were strong enough to get through. You may be dealing with painful emotions and want to deal with those feelings as quickly as possible. There are several ways that you can work through your painful emotions and start to move on, such as writing about your feelings, allowing yourself to grieve, and being cautious about rebound relationships. Keep in mind that getting over a breakup takes time and patience. If things donâ€™t seem to get better with time, remember that you can always turn to friends, family, or even a mental health professional for support.
1. Emotional pain:
Know that the pain you are feeling is normal. After a breakup, it is normal to feel sad, angry, frightened, and other emotions as well. You might be worried that you will end up alone or that you wonâ€™t be happy again. Just remind yourself that it is normal to feel this way after a breakup and that you need to feel these emotions in order to move on
2. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of the relationship:
The end of a relationship can leave a big hole in your heart, which may require a significant grieving period. Make sure that you give yourself permission to grieve this loss and experience the pain that it causes. Otherwise, it may take longer for you to feel better and move on. Let yourself cry, scream, yell, or whatever you
need to do to get your negative emotions out. Try setting a daily time limit for grieving the loss of your relationship. Having a set amount of time to deal with these emotions will provide you with an outlet to vent while preventing you from dwelling on your
3. Reflect on your relationship:
Consider all of the reasons that you and your ex broke up. Try to keep in mind that even if that you enjoyed being together for a while, something was not working. Thinking about the reasons why the relationship ended can help you understand why you need to move on. You may also be able to avoid making the same mistakes in the future if you can identify areas where you contributed to the demise of the relationship. Ask yourself some of the following questions:
1. Did I contribute to the end of the relationship?
If so, what did I do?
2. Do I tend to choose the same sort of people to
date? If so, what are they like? Are they good
for me? Why or why not?
3. Have I had similar problems in other
relationships? If so, what is causing me to
have these problems? What can I do
differently in future relationships?
4. Deal with your anger:
Its normal to be angry and sad. Feelings of anger occur when we feel we have been wronged or there has been unfair treatment. In a situation where you will not contact your ex-partner, the best way to deal with anger alone is to relax. Take deep breaths and focus on allowing your muscles to voluntarily relax. Soft music can
5. Remind yourself of your exâ€™s negative traits:
Focusing on all of the things that you donâ€™t like about your ex can help you to get over the breakup faster. Try making a list of all of the things your ex did that you did not like. For example, maybe your ex often burped loudly after dinner, or made plans without you, or forgot your birthday. List every little thing that bothered you
about your ex.
6. Consider the reasons why you are better off without your ex:
In addition to reminding yourself of everything that bothered you about your ex, you can also benefit from thinking about the positives to your breakup. Make another list of all of the reasons why you are better off without your ex. For example, maybe your ex discouraged your efforts to eat healthy, so now you feel more empowered to follow a healthy diet and take better care of yourself. Or maybe your ex never wanted to do any of the things that you wanted to do, so now you have the freedom to do all of those things. List all of the reasons why you are better off without your ex. This will help you from getting sober about the relationship
7. Surround yourself with supportive people:
You want people around you who love you and who will help you feel good about yourself. Surrounding yourself with compassionate, supportive friends and family will help you see yourself as a worthwhile person, and you’ll find it easier to get steady on your feet again with your loved ones around you. Donâ€™t be afraid to ask your friends and family for support if you need someone to talk to or a
shoulder to cry on
8. Find healthy ways to soothe your emotional pain:
It may be your first instinct to want to ignore or dull your pain by turning to alcohol, drugs, or food, but these will not provide long-term solutions. Steer clear of these unhealthy methods of dealing with your emotional pain. Instead, try to find ways of dealing with your emotions that will lead to growth and recover
9. Keep your distance:
Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, break away completely from each other right after the breakup. This means not seeing each other, not being around his/her family members, no phone calls, no e-mails, no text messages, no Facebook, and no IMs. You donâ€™t have to have stop talking forever, but you do need to cut all communication for as long as it takes to get completely over your ex. If he/she tries to convince you to see him/her, ask yourself honestly what the point would be. If you’re reliving the past by seeing him/her,
it’s not hard to get caught up in the moment and it will be harder to let go again.
10. Remove painful memory triggers:
There are all kinds of things that remind you of your ex,a song, a smell, a sound, a place. Having these items around can make it harder for you to recover from a breakup. Remove all of the things that make your heart ache or your stomach turn. It can work wonders to clear your space of all these triggers. If you have a keepsake, such as a watch or piece of jewelry that was given to you by your ex, there’s nothing wrong with keeping it. But for the time being, try putting it away until you have gotten over the relationship.
11. Get busy and have fun:
It might be difficult at first to start associating again, especially if you were used to doing things together with your ex. After a relationship ends, it is okay to have some time to yourself at home. Just make sure that you get back out in the world aft you have processed your feelings. Make plans, go out with your friends, and have fun! It might seem awkward at first, but it will get easier and it will help you to feel better. Getting out and doing things is also important because you need to grow and maintain your social network after a breakup. Doing so will help you to move on with your life.
12. Be aware that rebound relationships are common:
It is common for people to enter into a rebound relationship soon after breaking up with someone. Ladies do these a lot and it always end up bad. Rebounding may be common, but it is no always a good idea. When you enter into a relationship too soon after breaking up with someone, you may be masking your negative emotions with the excitement of a new relationship. If that new relationship does not work out, you may have to deal with the pain of two breakups at once. Consider remaining single until you have fully processed your emotions and gotten over the breakup.
13. Don’t stop taking care of yourself:
It is common for people to put less effort into self-care after a breakup, but doing so will not help you to feel better and good about yourself. Take good care of yourself,be pretty and beautiful. And in case you run into your ex you will be proud of yourself. I’m sure you will get him/her thinking tooFollow Love Venture on WordPress.com