Every lady want to have the perfect choice of a guy in their life but a lot of the times, they end up in the arms of the wrong guy that wants nothing else but sex from a relationship.
Mistakes are inevitable in life. The relationship circle cannot be left out if we must fully touch mistakes in life.
what then do you do or lookout for to avoid falling in the arms of the wrong guy? Here are a some viable tips for you:
HE FLIRTS WITH OTHER LADIES
This one a lot of the times is obvious but ladies sometimes thinks he will grow over the other girls or ladies he is cheating on you or flirting with and come to love you alone. Fact is, a cheating guy will continue and the only thing he will get over is you and the other girL’s he is flirting with and move on to fresher or new ones. Don’t make the mistake of thinking a flirting guy will be serious with you if he is still flirting. He only wants to have sex and move on to the next girl. A guy that truly cares about you will never flirt with other girls while in a relationship with you.
HE TEXT YOU ONLY AFTER 12am
Texting a lover or the feeling of receiving text from your lover is normally sweeter and more pleasurable at night when the athmosphere is calmer, but its not a yastic to be texting only at night. Someone that truly cares for you will text you anytime of the day even when you are at work to hear from you and give you something to hold on to, from them all ddy before you meet in person. They won’t only be texting you when your sexual senses are most active (midnight). If a guy is only texting you at midnight its to get you sexually active so the next time you meet you will easily give in to sex which is very effective. A guy that truly loves and cares for you will text you anytime of the day. So next time you meet a guy that text you only at booty call hours (after 12midnight), know he only wants sex.
HE GETS FRUSTRATED WHEN YOU ONLY WANT TO HANG OUT NOTHING MORE
Hanging out with your partner without getting intimate in one way to enjoy and know a relationship that will last a lifetime, that’s if your man is cool with it. You will get to know more about each other, learn more about your private lives and what’s ahead of you, and have fun as best of friends and companion. You cannot have sex all day. But you can keep each other company all day. Eighty percent of the tines you spend together in a relationship will be without having sex, so you need a partner who will be there for you and be man enough to hold his sex drive. Not one that will want to feel your body in his all the time. If a guy can’t just hang out with you without bringing in sex, know he will not be in for anything serious.
YOU NEVER MEET HIS FRIENDS AND FAMILY
A guy that truly wants and care for you will introduce you to his family and circle and will want to get to know yours. You know why? Because you are now his family and he is now yours, thats if he truly care. Nobody came to this world alone or exist alone. Even orphans have serious friends that have become their family. You only aallow people you take seriously into your family and circle. So I’d you have been dating for months and he is yet to introduce you to his friends and family, girlfriend he only wants sex.
HE NEVER ALLOWS YOU SLEEPOVER AT HIS PLACE
As a lady, sleeping over at your boyfriends or fiances place with his consent is one sure way to know he is not seeing anyone else. As you will get to spend time together and get a feeling of what its like to spend the rest of your lives together as a couple in each others arms. A guy that is into you for sex alone will not agree to it because you will be allover him and he won’t have time to catch up with the other girls in his life. Some guys are good at scheduling that you can spend a week in their house without knowing they have another girl in their life. If you want to sleepover at their place, don’t inform them. Give them a surprise visit and sleepover. If he give excuses why you shouldn’t, know he is only into you for sex. A guy that wants anything serious with you will be pleased to have you over at their place even without informing them.
HE MAKES YOU GET ALL YOUR THINGS BEFORE LEAVING HIS HOUSE ON VISITS
Ladies are of the habit of leaving their things behind at their boyfriends place. Maybe intentional, maybe not, you will never have your girl over at your house without her leaving something she could use the next time she visits. I am not mentioning anything, ladies you know what you normally forget at your boyfriends place. Its a way of saying “am comfortable with you. Your house is also mine, dear.” A guy that is only into you will have his eyes over you like a CCTV when you visit him. He will be so on you that you will not even forget your hair pin in his house. After sex, he will be the one to remind you where you drop your undies. A guy that truly wants something serious with you wouldn’t mind you forgeting anything in his house because its also your house, as you are welcome to stop by anytime.
HE NEVER TAKES YOU ON A REAL DATE
Dates are a lovely experience if you are dating the right person. You get to go out together to go have a mInd rubbing time where you discover more about one another and spend a quality time together discussing things that interest you. Sometimes you do it in company of your very good friends and their partners most especially in public places. A guy that is into you for sex alone will only want to meet at a hotel, your place, or his. He won’t give you the luxury of going on a real date which is common in every true relationship. He don’t want to give you the feeling of being someone special to him so he can leave you whenever he has had enough of you. Main reason might be that he will bump over somebody that know he has another girl in his life or the other girls might see the both of you together. You are into a guy that won’t take you out on a date or don’t want to be seen with you in public, know he is into you for sex. He has somebody else in his life. A guy that truly cares for you will take you out on a true date without you asking. It might not be big but he will do it.
HE DOESNT RESPOND TO YOUR TEXT IF ITS NOT ABOUT SEX
Texting is a beautiful way of reaching out to your partner if you are in a true relationship. It gives your partner something to hold on to whenever they are missing you or want you around in person and you are not there. Its one way of documenting our emotions and passing it to our partner. Its not something anyone can just do. It has to come from the heart as an evidence of what you are thinking about or feeling at the moment you are composing the text. A guy that is only into you for sex won’t waste his time on text if its not about sex. If you text him about other things, he won’t reply. As he won’t want you to hold anything against him. He just want to sleep with you and nothing more, so no going emotional or personal texting. The best he will do is call you to hangout for sex. Don’t expect his response in text if its not about sex.
HE ALWAYS TRIES TO INITIATE SEX WHENEVER YOU HANGOUT
In a true relationship, hanging out doesn’t always have to end up in sex. There are many a times when you will need to hangout as best friends talking, playing games, discussing your future together, exchanging opinions on things going on around you, watching movies with pop corn by your side, reading your favourite books together, and doing other fun things you love without having sex. For a guy that is into a relationship for sex alone, this good feeling is a waste of time. you rather be lost in each others body all the time. Even if he promise to just hangout alone, he will initiate sex. His hands will be on your body parts that turn turns you on even if you are discussing an issue on the news about a pregnant woman on her way to delivery that died of flying bullet from a police car chasing a run away armed robbery suspect.
HE TALKS NOTHING OTHER THAN SEX
Don’t get this wrong, some guys are naturally good at talking sex. It doesn’t mean they are not keepers, no. I have seen guys who won’t talk sex but they are good at initiating it and its only what they want from a relationship. They know just where to touch to get a girl in bed and how to go about it without saying a word. What am in for here is, a guy that only talks nothing but sex. There is no decent conversation with him. If you are on the phone with him its about sex, if you hangout its about sex, what about texting, its also about sex. There is no conversation with him that won’t end up with sex. Even if you ask his opinion about a decent meal you prepared, both of you just finish eating, he will relate his reply to having sex with you. This guy is always horny. A guy that truly respects you will know his limits with sex.
HE ONLY COMPLEMENTS YOUR LOOKS
His favourite complement anytime he gives it up for you is “you are hot , or you look hot.” If he is not using this, he is complementing your sensual body parts. He will never tell you you look gorgeous, sweet, so beautiful, or how wonderful he feels to be your man. You only use those for someone you feel a thing for . Ask him his favourite part of your body, he will pick a part that initiate sex. He will never tell you he loves you in whole.
YOU GO STRAIGHT TO THE BEDROOM WHENEVER HE VISITS YOU OR YOU PAY HIM A VISIT
This one is straight to the point like he is straight to the point. His favourite sitting place in his house or yours is your bed. He doesn’t want to know how your day is going or you are going through an emotional downtime whenever you visit him, or he visits you. He just want to have sex. He won’t see that you have changed your flower pot or you have made some changes in your apartment. He just wants to sleep with you. Even if he acknowledge them, it would be short, next he will start kissing and touching trying to initiate sex since you are already sitting on the bed with him.
HE COMES UP WITH AN EXCUSE TO LEAVE AFTER SEX
Some people think sex is just the five minutes you stay on each other, its more than that. Good sex happens in three stages. The foreplay, the midplay, and the afterplay. Its how you enjoy intensifying and satisfying each others sex drive before penetration, during penetration, and after penetration. There is this satisfaction you get when you stay naked in each others arms after sex and whisper to each other how much you enjoy the moment of pleasure with each other and how much you wish it to happen till eternity, and in the process sleepoff in eachothers arms and wake up together. It won’t happen with a guy that only wants sex from you. Majority of the times with guys like this, there is no foreplay and afterplay. Just the penetration which is the midplay. They just want to get a quick one before you change your mind and move on, maybe to another girl.
HIS KISSING ALWAYS LEADS TO SEX
People in a relationship kiss for different reasons. It can be to say I love you, I care for you, worry no more, I understand, proud to be yours, am proud of you, let’s get down, and so many other reasons. For a guy who is only into a relationship for sex, its the, “let’s get down.” This is the long kiss the usually goes along with touching the sensitive parts of each others body. This guy won’t just kiss you. He always accompany his kissing you with touching sensitive parts of your body to say, “let’s get down.” He will not kiss you for long before he starts taking off your clothes. Its okay to kiss this way, butbif he is always kissing you to get down with you, he only wants sex and nothing more.
HE NEVER TALKS ABOUT A FUTURE WITH YOU IN IT AS HIS BETTER HALF
People in a relationship that are not just in it for the fun dont take long to bring this up in their conversations. From their conversations about their plans for the future, they touch their being together and how they will fare as a couple. They talk about kids, how many they will love to have, the kind of house they dream o living in, how they will fare as parents, and the kind of financial discipline that should be in place to make this work. This will all happen while they are still in the relationship. A guy that only wants sex with you won’t go this far with you conversations. If you bring it up he will cover it with something else that is irrelevant because he doesn’t want to be responsible with you. There is no future with him and you as a couple, you as his better half. He rather you talk something else that would lead to your having sex with him.
HE TELLS YOU HE ONLY WANTS TO BE FRIENDS WITH BENEFIT
The phrase, “friends with benefits, ” sounds sweet to some ladies. without knowing what it implies, they go deep into a relationship with a guy that tells them he only wants to be friends with benefits thinking he would take them serious. He won’t, it means he only wants to be having sex with you and leave whenever he pleases to the one hebis serious with, or to another girl. Guys like these are extremely caring. Don’t take their being caring for seriousness, no. They will never be serious with you. Some ladies make the mistake of thinking a guy that openly tell them he wants to be friends with benefit, will grow fund of them and change his mind or leave the one that are serious with, for her. No. it won’t happen. It is stated from the beginning that the relationship will lead to nothing serious, so don’t expect it to. You are just his sexual partner, nothing more.
HE CANNOT LEAVE HIS PHONE WITH YOU
Phones have crashed alot of relationships as people that wants to get into a serious relationship still want their privacy. If you have nothing to hide from your partner, there is no reason not to be comfortable with your phone being with them. One of the easiest way to know a guy that is into a relationship for the selfish reason of making you their sex partner is how they handle their phone while around you. If he is free with his phone around you, know he has nothing to hide, if not, he is just in for the sex. A guy that considers you as his better half can leave his phone with you all day without causing a scene.
YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS STAGNANT
A relationship is suppose to progress to marriage. If its not you will know from the way your boyfriend treat you. If it will leaa to marriage you will feel it in the steps he take to let you into his world. By his world I mean you will get to know everything about him by his opening up to you. He will take you to his friends, family, best places of hangout. He will let you in on his dreams, what he does as his hobbies, his work, religious beliefs and other things you don’t let a stranger know. If he is in for sex, you will only know his favourite sex position, his favourite hotel, and how much he enjoys being with you under the sheets. If you bring the things I mention above about your relationship progressing to the next level he will find a way to throw it under the carpet. Guys that does that will never get serious with you. They only want your body sleeping in their bed.
HE STARTS DISRESPECTING YOU AFTER HAVING SEX WITH YOU
Before sex, he made you feel like you were the best thing to ever happen to his life. like you are the only woman in the world. He made all the promises that he will not, never cheat on you. He even took you to that dream vacation that made you feel like you were a queen. He showered you with gifts that you thought to yourself, “there is no way this guy is faking this. He is into me for real. This will all end with his putting a ring on me and taking the marriage vow.” So you let him have all of you and held nothing back. The aftermath, he no longer treat you like he used to. He now even raise his voice at you or threaten to hit you. He use abusive words that you thought will never come from him. Its all to get rid of you and move on to the next girl. He has gotten what he wants from you, sex. Never man the mistake of thinking he will change. He won’t. A guy that was nice to you and changed the day after he had sex with you is only in for sex.
HE TALKS BAD ABOUT OTHER GIRLS WHILE WITH YOU
This one is an open card, but most girls will ignore it in the name of being in love or finding their Mr right. A responsible guy that will take you serious will never talk bad about other girls in front of you for the respect they have for women. What you will feel if you were in the shoes of the other girl will come to their mind. Never make the mistake of thinking they will treat you better. You will be the next person they will disrespect before other girls when they get what they want from you.
One thing you should take from all these is, if you find any of these points useful, don’t be afraid to move on with your life, there is someone out there who will love you for real. Never let the mask guy hinder you from meeting him.
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