YOU LOOK GOOD
“I LOVE YOUR SMILE AND BODY BUILD. YOU LOOK GOOD ON SUIT. ”
A white girl that was in the arms of her boyfriend walking on a busy road told a gym addict that walk pass them on suit. Guess what her boyfriend did, he continued the complement from where his girlfriend stopped.
“MY GIRLFRIEND JUST TOOK THE WORDS OUT OF MY MOUTH. YOU REALLY LOOK GOOD. I ADMIRE YOUR BODY BUILD. IT MAKES ME WANT TO HIT THE GYM. CAN WE GET A PHOTO WITH YOU?
They took the photo with the guy, thanked him and continue walking arm on each other. I was stunned by this.
Take it to my country, it would mean the end of the relationship. The girl will not even be bold enough to speak her mind because she knows what her boyfriend will think or do. If she summon the courage to speak, her boyfriend would not hide his displeasure. That would be the end of the relationship or someone getting insulted or abused .
What about the guy complementing the gym addict? That’s another issue. We are in a society where a man is not permitted to complement a man. It’s forbidden. A man complementing a man or a guy complementing a guy is always misunderstood. If they don’t think it will make them feel less attractive than the other guy, it would be misinterpreted as being gay. Hence, men hide their complementary nature for their fellow men that it is even affecting the women.
Women these days are complaining that their husbands or boyfriends in this part of the world are no longer romantic. They are becoming egolistic as the days progress. They will never complement their partner for anything even if they are moved to. They see it as being a weak man. It takes a man that does not care about people’s opinion of how he should live his life to complement his partner or any woman that deserve a complement.
Nothing is wrong with giving complements It’s a good habit that everyone should develop and cultivate. Here is why you should be giving complements to people when they deserve it:
IT MAKES YOU HUMAN
Don’t ever believe that giving complements to people when they deserve it makes You weak, it instead makes you human. It’s human nature to appreciate good things and show we care about our fellow human beings. If you see something good about anybody, let them know, it would encourage them to keep it up and makes you feel better about yourself.
IT HELPS YOU GET RID OF JEALOUSY
One of the reason people are not good to their fellow human being is that they envy or are jealous of them. According to the Bible, the first murder in the world that involved one of the first offsprings of the first man (Adam) Cain, killing his brother Abel, resulted from jealousy and envy. They are both to present offerings of their first harvest to GOD. Abel presented the best of his lambs to GOD. Cain on his side provided the left over of his fruits, after taking away the best ones for himself. GOD accepted Abels sacrifice and left that of Cain. This got him jealous of his brother and made him kill his brother Abel. This made GOD curse him. If he had complemented his brother for doing the right thing and teaching him a life lesson, he wouldn’t have been jealous that led him to kill his brother.
A lot of relationships have died because we don’t complement the good in our partners, friends, and colleagues. If we see them doing better than us or doing something good worthy of complement and emulation, give them the complement they deserve. It will stop you from being jealous.
IT BUILDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE
Have you ever worked with a boss that you give your all to in carrying out task assigned to you, even doing more than is expected of you? Have you ever met a person that everyone around him or her wants to always be around? Wondered why people enjoy being around him or her? It’s because of their complementary nature. Such people won’t hesitate to give complements to people when they deserve it, even strangers. This makes people feel free and always welcomed around them. Giving complements to people build your relationship with them. It shows you care about them and their well being. It makes them comfortable around you. People that easily gives complements enjoys their relationship with people a lot more better than those that don’t.
IT FREE YOU OFF STRESS AND WORRIES
Giving complements to people free you off stress and worries. Stress and worries a lot of the times are caused by the negative vibes we keep in our hearts. let’s go to our beginning story. Say for example, the white girl’s boyfriend was offended by his girlfriend giving another guy complement in his presence. He will start developing negative thoughts about his girlfriend cheating on him with other guys or leaving him for a guy with six packs. This would result in him being worried of losing his girlfriend. His mindset would result in him acusing his girlfriend of cheating on him with other guys or treating her like she is cheating on him. Little by little, the relationship will come to an end if he does nothing about his negative thoughts.
Take it the other way and see it from the angle of what he did by accepting that the guy his girlfriend gave complement was really cute and saying it himself. That would be the end of any negative impact that complement his girlfriend gave the other guy would cause. Whether you are in a working environment, a public gathering, or you are in a relationship, giving complements when you are moved to rid you of negative vibes and help you free your mind. A free mind leads to a free conscience. A free conscience free you of stress and worries.
IT MAKES YOU STRONGER AND BETTER
Never believe that giving complements makes you weak. It’s does the opposite, makes you stronger and feel better than you have been feeling about yourself. Take time out to give complements to people that deserve it and observe how you feel about yourself . Compare it how you use to feel about yourself or what you used to think about giving complements. It takes courage and humility to complement another human being. Being humble makes you feel better about yourself and stronger as a human being. Humility is never a weakness, it’s strength.
IT BRINGS OUT THE BEST IN PEOPLE
People do better at anything they engage in when they are complemented for their efforts. It encourage them to do more and keep the good work they have started up. It makes them know they are appreciated. Appreciation brings out the best in people. Just a little complement would go far to doing more than you think. You want the best in people, complement them.
IT STANDS YOU OUT
Giving complements to people stands you out. It separates you from the average person in whatever environment you find yourself. It brings opportunities your way that the average person won’t get. Everyone would want to work with you, be your friend, or be on your team. It makes people respect and wants to be associated with you. In relationships, it would make your partner more comfortable around you, like we saw in our opening story . This would lead to better communication and understanding that many relationships lacks.
Now that you have known the benefits of giving complements, make it an habit.
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