When a study was made a few years ago on runaway wives what do you think was discovered to be the main reason wives ran away? It was â€œlack of appreciation.â€ And Iâ€™d bet that a similar study made of runaway husbands would come out the same way. We often take our spouses so much for granted that we never let them know we appreciate them.
A member of one of our classes told of a request made by his wife. She and a group of other women in her church were involved in a self-improvement programme. She asked her husband to help her by listing six things he believed she could do to help her become a better wife. The husband told the class: â€œI was surprised by such a request. Frankly, it would have been easy for me to list six things I would like to change about herâ€”my heavens, she could have listed a thousand things she would like to change about me â€“ but I didnâ€™t, I said to her, â€œLet me think about it and give you an answer in the morning.â€
â€œThe next morning I got up very early and called the florist and had them send six red roses to my wife with a note saying: â€œI cannot think of six things I would like to change about you. I love you the way you are.â€
â€œWhen I arrived at home that evening, who do you think greeted me at the door: thatâ€™s right, my wife! She was almost in tears. Needless to say, I was extremely glad I had not criticised her as she had requested.
â€œThe following Sunday at church, after she had reported the results of her assignment, several women with whom she had been studying came up to me and said. â€œThat was the most considerate thing I have ever heard.â€ It was then I realized the power of appreciation.
Recognizing Dale Carnegie
What I am using this story to preach is simple: before you get into the marriage/relationship, you saw your spouse the way they are, you know the way they behave, you know what they can do, if you know you cannot put up with it, itâ€™s better you quit instead of getting into the marriage/relationship and start bringing out faults and complaints. Donâ€™t ever ever forget to appreciate your spouse, whether they are doing enough or lagging behind because no matter what they are trying their best and your appreciation can go a long way in making them to be the best spouse, and the best in whatever they do.
PS: Donâ€™t take appreciation for granted in your marriage, relationship and in any kind of environment/relationship.
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