1. See if the person will listen to anything you say. If the person really loves you, then she’ll not only open up to you, but she’ll also listen to anything you have to say even if she’s heard it all before. Though she won’t be your lapdog, she will be around to hear your thoughts. She’ll nod and respond thoughtfully and not interrupt instead of switching the subject to something she wants to talk about. Part of being in love is just being able to listen. It’s not all about being able to talk.
2. See if the person is always there for you Â even if it’s inconvenient. Sure, if you want to grab a drink or a tasty meal, the person is always around, but what about when you need a ride from the airport or you need someone to walk your dog while you’re sick? If the person truly loves you, then he’ll be there for you during the fun times as well as the not-so-fun times.
If the person is only around when you’re happy, lighthearted, or in a good mood, but flees the scene as soon as you’re sad or cranky, then that’s not love. Love is about being there for a person no matter what. Truly loving a person means accepting all of the positive and negative qualities of that person, and being around during the good times and the bad.
3. See if the person does nice things for you. If the person truly loves you, then he’ll do thoughtful things like put gas in your car when you’re busy, do your food shopping for you, or bring you chicken soup when you’re home sick. These favors don’t have to be constant or over-the-top, but if the person truly loves you, then he’ll want to do things to make you smile and to make your life easier. True love isn’t just about what you can take from the person, but what you can give as well.
If the person really loves you, then he’ll do nice things for you without you having to ask. It should be implied that you need a favor or help sometimes. If you have to ask for something nice every time, then that may not be true love.
4. See if the person always wants to be around you. Part of being in love is always wanting to be around the person you love, even if it’s impractical. If the person truly loves you, then he or she will want to be around you — a lot. This doesn’t mean the person will want to be attached at the hip, but it does mean that the person will try to take as many opportunities as possible to see you.
This doesn’t mean that the person will want to be with you 24/7. But if the person can only make time to see you once or twice a month, it’s very likely that it isn’t love.
5. See if the person knows when to give you space. If the person truly loves you, then he’ll not only want to be around you a lot, but he’ll also know when to give you space and do your own thing. If the person wants to be around you all the time, then that’s not love it’s infatuation. As love matures, two people will realize that they still need to do things separate to maintain their own identities.
If the person wants to be around you every waking moment, then that may be more of a sign of that person’s insecurities than true love.
6. See if the person truly understands you. True love is true understanding. Though it sounds lame, the person should really “get” you in order to love you. If the person actually understands your moods, knows what you want and what you don’t want, and has an idea of what will make you happy before you may know it yourself, then that may be true love.
It’s okay if part of you remains mysterious to the person — you don’t have to be understood 100%, but you do have to have the sense that the other person truly understands where you’re coming from most of the time.
7. See if the person wants the best for you — even if it isn’t the best for him. If a person truly loves you, then he’ll understand that there are some things that you have to do that may not be the best for him, or may mean that you’ll be spending some time apart. If he truly loves you, then he’ll understand that you have to spend a summer on a remote island to pursue your career in marine biology, or that you have to go home early to get enough sleep for a test instead of spending the night with him.
If the person only wants what’s best for both of you at all times, then he’s not really seeing you as a unique individual with your own needs and desires.
8. See if he truly supports you. If he really loves you, then he’ll not only be there for the fun times, but he’ll be there to help you achieve your goals and move forward in your life. If he truly loves you, then he’ll be there in the bleachers during your soccer game, he’ll be there to see you defend your thesis, and he’ll be there to give you a ride to your job interview. And he’ll be there whenever you want to talk about something that means a lot to you. If he really loves you, then he’ll support you as you achieve your goals or pursue your interests, even if they have nothing to do with him.Follow Love Venture on WordPress.com